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Title: If you want to stop dissociation you've got to make friends with immobilisation and realise that it won't kill us to slow down.
Author: Fraser Trevor
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If you hear yourself say words like, "I'll do this tomorrow" or "I'll quit in six months" or "I'm not...
If you hear yourself say words like, "I'll do this tomorrow" or "I'll quit in six months" or "I'm not ready yet" - pay attention!

You are caught in your dissociation response.

But the idea that "you're dissociating" isn't totally true.

While you may be delaying getting started, there's actually a good reason about why we haven't started yet.

 if there is a project that we're dissociating on, chances are it's a little risky that it requires us to sit down be still and put aside other tasks to focus on it.

This is not good news to our inbuilt ancestral nervous system at first.

Why?

The main reasons are, let us explain.

First - We have a morbid fear of immobilisation.

What's that mean?

It means that in the past, if our ancestors were still or didn't move, the chances of a tiger eating them, or a tribe taking them over were high.

Meaning that to our ancestors, stillness = death.

Webster's defines immobile as "incapable of being moved".

We have an innate fear of being immobile, because on a cellular level, our nervous system associates immobility with certain death.

This is why it's so hard to meditate.

But, it's also why it's so hard to be creative and take time for our goals and dreams.

Almost every goal or reality requires some level of immobility.

Example: sitting down to write a book or create content is immobilising.

Example: going live on Instagram or Facebook is immobilising.

Example: turning off your phone or computer is immobilising.

Example: sleep is immobilising.

So, if you want to stop dissociation you've got to make friends with immobilisation and realise that it won't kill us to slow down.

Second, everything our nervous system does is for a good reason.

Dissociation is a primal survival response.

Some part of us thinks that slowing down or taking a risk is a threat to our survival.

So, instead of just going harder, do our child within study to discover the root cause of our dissociation.

Then, instead of beating ourself up, we'll see that in the past, dissociation served us to keep us safe.

But, yesterday's medicine has become today's poison.

So, instead of making ourself wrong for dissociating, give ourselves a pat on the back and thank our child within for protecting us.

Then, as we recognise our trauma in the ten stages, we can start to take action in spite of the fact that a part of us thinks that dissociation will keep us safe.

Because the child within has learned that dissociation is just an old survival response that isn't serving us to move forward towards our goals.

So, we give ourself a break.

Dissociation has kept us alive as a child, and now it's time to thank our child within for keeping us alive, and start to take courageous imperfect meditation daily to reprogram our child within to take more and more action in the present moment.

Pretty soon, you're child within with the use of the ten stages will adjust and we won't dissociate so much.

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