Being in recipe of dissociation thinking we believe ourselves unworthy “less than”

Being in recipe of dissociation thinking we believe ourselves unworthy “less than”, and feel we must depend on others for direction on how to live life. The unfortunate truth about us is that we never learned to grow up and act as responsible worthy adults. We conduct ourselves like children, as if still living with our abusive or dysfunctional family, believing we lack the power to choose our destiny or influence the quality of our lives. We become anonymous ghosts trapped in a powerful illusion of victimisation.

Deep inside we harbour the delusion that one day our parents will love us, will finally take care of us: if I behave my mother will love me, if I do as I am told my father will stop using drugs, if I am good enough I will not get beaten. These are the strategies we learned as children to protect ourselves in addicted or dysfunctional families. 

They worked and helped us survive an abusive family environment. Unfortunately, though, as grown-ups some of us still cling to these views of how to negotiate life, long after they have served their purpose.