Deep inside we harbour the delusion that one day our parents will love us, will finally take care of us: if I behave my mother will love me, if I do as I am told my father will stop using drugs, if I am good enough I will not get beaten. These are the strategies we learned as children to protect ourselves in addicted or dysfunctional families.
They worked and helped us survive an abusive family environment. Unfortunately, though, as grown-ups some of us still cling to these views of how to negotiate life, long after they have served their purpose.
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