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Title: It takes a lot of work to wake up as a human being, and it’s a lot easier to stay asleep than to wake up
Author: Fraser Trevor
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It takes a lot of work to wake up as a human being, and it’s a lot easier to stay asleep than to wake up. Maté is a physician who speciali...
It takes a lot of work to wake up as a human being, and it’s a lot easier to stay asleep than to wake up. Maté is a physician who specialises in neurology, psychiatry and psychology, and who became a workaholic and lived with ADHD and depression until, in his 40s and 50s, he began to unravel the root cause – and that took him all the way back to Budapest, where he was born in January 1944. Two months later, the Nazis occupied Hungary: his mother took him to the doctor because he wouldn’t stop crying. “Right now,” the doctor replied, “all the Jewish babies are crying.” This is because, explains Maté, what happens to the parent happens to the child: the mothers were terrified, the babies were suffering, but unlike their mothers they couldn’t understand what the suffering was about.

Later, Maté’s mother, fearing for his survival, left him for a month in the care of a stranger. All this, he explains, gave him a lifelong sense of abandonment and loss which had an impact on his psychological health. It affected his marriage and his own parenting experience. To compensate for his buried trauma, he had buried himself in work and neglected his family.

Opening up to the trauma, exploring it and investigating it, was incredibly difficult.

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