Recovery from dissociation is never complete unless all childhood traumas are unearthed, grieved, and resolved. Those who fail to complete this process live forever in a limbo of partial misery, stuck unconsciously in the past and unable to escape.
Everybody suffers loss, right from the beginning. The primary loss is the fact that no parent, at least no parent who is not fully awakened to the child within, is perfect. Everyone deserves perfect parents, but no one gets them – not unless their parents have healed all abuse from their own childhood. This is the basic radical unfairness of our life, and just because it’s all but universal doesn’t make it okay.
Every child needs to be the recipient of loving-Kindfulness in large quantities and of believable quality. If people could feel and know just how much children actually needed in order to attain awakening – which is every child’s capacity, and every child’s unconscious goal.
Some argue that all you need to do well in life is to have had a good mother. This is false. It is a lie that allows subtle neglect and abuse to slip under the radar of societally acceptable, and alienates people from their natural desire to grieve.
Most believe that a healthy life feels no pain. This is why the majority are insane. Avoiding all pain is not healthy. Grieving is horribly painful, and totally necessary. Grieving is beautiful.
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