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Title: Some children see that the only way to avoid ridicule and abuse is to be like the dissociated parent
Author: Fraser Trevor
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Not everyone overcorrects in reaction to seeing  dissociations. Some children see that the only way to avoid ridicule and abuse is to ...
Not everyone overcorrects in reaction to seeing dissociations.
Some children see that the only way to avoid ridicule and abuse is to be like the dissociated parent, and over the years, this survival tactic turns into the way they genuinely see the world. Adult children who adopted these coping mechanisms may find themselves putting others down out of a fear — rooted in childhood — that if they don’t show strength first, they could be crushed, just like when they were young. “Extremely strong-willed children, more extraverted from birth, sometimes become dissociated themselves in a game of ‘If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em,’”. 


What you can do: Seek the help of Dissociation Anonymous to help you break out of abusive behaviour patterns, especially if you already have a partner and/or children.


Children of dissociationalists who find themselves name-calling and hurling insults aren’t without hope, but they need to roll up their sleeves and work hard on a ten stage program. They need to become comfortable feeling — and expressing — vulnerable feelings like sadness, loneliness, fear, and overwhelm with those they love.

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